‘girl code’ aha! Moment: the compliment wars [video]

Whether it’s why you should love your boobs or why you should not cut your own bangs, MTV’s “Girl Code” delivers fresh insight about all-too-familiar topics, and is sure to sometimes have its female viewers fervently nodding their heads while mouthing to the television screen, “Yessss, exactllllly!!!” Oprah calls that kind of catharsis an “aha! moment,” which sounds like a positive thing, so we’re highlighting a different part of the show each week that made us feel like maybe, just maybe, we’re not the loner freaks we originally assumed. Take a look at the latest below.

“You don’t want to over accept [compliments] because then you’re gonna sound conceited.” 

OMG, April Rose, you’re soooooo right…and smart…and pretty!

The only thing women are better at than complimenting each other is downplaying — or downright disputing — a compliment with a self-deprecating joke, and then one-upping the original complimenter with an even heavier dose of adoration. So, if you ever encounter a female who doesn’t try to deflect your kind words, run for the hills, because that just ain’t “Girl Code.” Ya hear???

When it comes to the art of buttering up, there’s an entire section in the “Code” book devoted to the hows, whens and whys of girl/girl appreciation, and in the clip below from last night’s episode, our Codemasters theorize on why complimenting our sisters has become an ongoing case study of female insecurity. “We’ll do whatever it takes to get that weird awkwardness out of of the room, and we’ll just start throwing out compliments,” April Rose says of how women default to acting realllllly nice when talkin’ about the weather just doesn’t cut it. Tanisha Long, on the other hand, thinks flattery is our version of a pissing contest, which is…probably right on the money. How many times have you competed in a full-on “compliment war” with your BFFs? To be the superior compliment giver is to be the superior friend. And maybe even the superior person. (Hmm, perhaps this thought process is one of the reasons guys call us crazy?)

The compliment war will forever rage on, unless we find the happy medium that lies somewhere between Lonely Cat Lady and Conceited Beyotch, so, ladies, learn how to take one or you may end up like the poor souls in this “Inside Amy Schumer” sketch, where our very own Nikki Glaser doesn’t follow the dance-around-the-compliment “Code” and kills all of her friends in the process. Hey, we never said compliment wars were casualty-free.